Are You Involved With A Narcissistic Person?

Many bigamists and/or con men/women have narcisstic psychopathic traits because they feel they are truly entitled and society's laws and norms DO NOT APPLY TO THEM.

Excerpt from: Thomas J. Schumacher, Psy.D., R-CSW, Are You Involved With a Narcissist?

According to the American Psychological Association, people with narcissistic personality disorder display a chronic and pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy. The Greek myth has it that Narcissus died enraptured by the beauty of his own reflection in a pool and feel forever in love with his own reflection. The Narcissist displays an operating style that involves extreme self-involvement, and a grandiose sense of self- importance. They exaggerate their achievements and talents, expecting others to recognize them as superior and often appearing arrogant and extremely self absorbed.

Note that bigamists and/or cons may fabricate education credentials or overstate their position in their job.My soon-to-be ex bigamist told everyone he had a mechanical engineering degree from Cal Poly and a Masters in Business Administration from the University of Washington. He told everyone he was an officer in the Air Force and played on the Air Force Basketball team. When in fact, he never obtained a degree from anywhere except a diploma mill university and enlisted in the Air Force right after high school and was a mechanic!--OneOfSeven

Preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, or beauty, they require the constant attention and admiration of those around them, although they are very choosy about the people and institutions they will associate closely with. They often admit to being snobs and are actually proud of it. They also believe that their problems are unique and can be appreciated only by other “special” high - status people. Despite their charm, the favorable first impression they make, and their wide circle of notable acquaintances, people with this disorder are rarely able to maintain a stable, long-term relationship.

Note that bigamists and/or cons will usually have many relationships. In the case of my soon-to-be ex bigamist, there were at least seven "confirmed" marriage and four of those marriages overlapped.--OneOfSeven

With their boastful and pretentious manner, narcissistic persons are seldom receptive to the feelings of others. They show a general lack of empathy, an inability or unwillingness to recognize and identify with your thoughts and needs. Many are often successful, impressively knowledgeable, and articulate, yet bored and doubt ridden as well.

Note that bigamists and/or cons are usually highly intelligent and most likely have very high IQs.--OneOfSeven

As stated above, people with this personality disorder must constantly seek outside support and approval. If they get that support and approval, they feel complete and powerful. Without that support and approval, they feel deprived, exposed, vulnerable, angry, and lonely.

What To Watch Out For

Most people with this disorder advertise themselves… They seek to be the center of attention. In search of constant approval and praise to reinforce their false grandiose sense of self, they’re “on- stage,” dominating the conversation, often exaggerating their importance.

They lack empathy for others and have an inflated sense of entitlement, requiring others to respond to their demands and grant favors. They need everything for themselves and are envious of others’ accomplishments and possessions.

Criticism or disapproval takes them back to their difficult childhoods, sending them into a defensive fury, since any flaw or mistake means they’re not perfect. Also, when things go wrong, they cannot acknowledge the imperfections implicit in accepting responsibility.

Appearance matters more than substance. Power, wealth and beauty bolster their fragmented self-image.

Note that bigamists and/or cons are obsessed with their looks; with the fountain of youth. God forbid if you are overweight and in a relationship with an "N". After I sent my soon-to-be-ex bigamist to the curb, I found at least twenty bottles of Viagra-type products under the bathroom cabinet, as well as men's hair color products, etc.--OneOfSeven

They may be extremely driven because the “narcissistic fuel” of outside approval is so essential. Many are workaholics. Warning: this personality disorder may not be immediately obvious. The subtle ones won’t show their true colors until “deprived.” Caution: Others may actually pursue and cater to you, if you have something they want, such as looks, money, or status.

Can you change them? Reality check: No. Even constructive criticism is experienced by them as an affront and is met with anger and a sense of betrayal. Placating only results in more demands, not a return of thoughtfulness and consideration. In fact, if you always excuse or rationalize self-absorption and give in to constant demands, you are actually supporting and reinforcing their narcissistic needs and wants.

Know when to leave. Dealing with this personality disorder can undermine your own sense of self. Ask yourself some questions…Do I continually feel depressed, irritable, devalued and worthless? Does my anger and resentment carry over into other relationships? Have I stopped supporting myself in general, not treating myself well or allowing others to coerce me? Bottom line: If you find yourself answering yes too frequently, you must examine the pay-off or importance of your relationship with this person.

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In Psychology Narcissism describes the character trait of self love, based on self-image or ego.

According to them the word Narcissism is derived from a Greek myth. Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. As punishment, he was cursed to fall in love with his own image in a pool of water, how silly right? Well so much about Narcissus,

In psychology and psychiatry, excessive narcissism is recognized as a severe personality dysfunction or personality disorder, most characteristically Narcissistic personality disorder.

This maybe the main reason for bigamy, a characteristic like this will trigger into bigamy because of the reason that they are not satisfied or not contented with one person they always seek for much of the attention. I have some friends who have those characteristics, but not yet severe and I my self have a little of those. As human we have a part of Narcissistic attitude deep within our selves, its a part of us, and then its up to us how to control this attitude. I think the cure or the solution of this is a constant support from the family and love from the persons he love.

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