What Should I Do?
Too often, bigamy is a crime that goes unreported because its victims are embarrassed to go to the authorities. Victims are ashamed they have married someone who has not obtained an annulment or divorce from their previous spouse. Bigamy is socially unacceptable and it is not tolerated by our society. Bigamy is a crime.
But, why should you be ashamed? What have you done? You've done nothing, except love someone who has lied to you; you've done nothing except loved someone who has frauded you; you trusted your spouse to be honest with you. Speak up, go to the police, and don't back down.
I know I am married to a bigamist, what should I do?
If you know you are married to a bigamist, go to the police immediately. Also retain an attorney quickly to represent you in your annulment. If you have proof you are married to a bigamist, take both marriage licenses with you to the police, this will help speed the complaint process.
What if I am not sure my spouse is a bigamist?
If you are not sure, contact the previous spouse. Chances are he or she will be willing to help you. If the previous spouse is not willing to cooperate, try to secure the marriage license and look for the divorce decree or ask the police to contact the previous spouse.
Marriage licenses and divorce decrees are difficult
to obtain because every state has different regulations and there is NO
centralized database in the United States of marriage records.
Lovefraud.com has an excellent section on Mission Impossible: Finding Out If Someone Is Married that will help aid in your search.
I have filed a complaint but Law enforcement officials are dragging their feet. Should I give up?
Never give up; but welcome to the world of being married to a bigamist and dealing with law enforcement officials. Even though bigamy is a crime, it is not on the priority crime list of police. And in many jurisdictions, it is not even on the radar.
Frankly, bigamists are not the biggest fish to fry when thrust into the company of murderers, rapists, and gang-related violence. Nonetheless bigamy is a CRIME, and bigamy is a felony in all but thirteen states. Until victims start pushing and making law enforcement officials and prosecutors accountable for prosecuting this crime, it will remain unimportant and unrecognized.
Become relentless; become a bulldog. Make daily phone calls to the detective handling your case. If you are not satisfied, talk to his or her superior, and talk to the prosecutor handling your case. If you feel you are getting the runaround or your calls are not being returned, or your emails are deleted without being read, go to your elected county or city representative. You are a taxpayer and your hard-earned tax dollars help pay the salaries of the law enforcement officials. Do not give up.
Bigamy is an overlooked and unreported crime in the United States and UK. Bigamists wreak havoc in their victims' lives, not just emotionally but financially as well.
If you become relentless in your pursuit, you can make a difference. Read about a one brave woman's pursuit to ensure her bigamist spent two years in jail.
Bigamy is a felony in most states. Bigamy statutes for each state and the District of Columbia are divided alphabetically into the following categories on Fighting Bigamy:
Please note there is no centralized database for jurisdictions to check to see whether or not a person is being truthful on their application. The sentences and fines for bigamy are less than for a DUI. If a National Marriage Database were in place, this would not be a problem. I urge you to sign the petition urging Congress to institute such a database.