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  • Victims of Law
    Can't afford a lawyer? Check out this site to learn how to represent yourself (Pro Se). Don't get caught up in rebellion against the legal business, follow the court rules & rules of evidence for your jurisdiction. Learn everything you can about court procedure.
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  • Mary Turner Thompson
    Mary Turner Thompson is a victim of a serial bigamist and sociopath. She is also author of the books “The OTHER Mrs Jordan” and "The Bigamist: The True Story of a Husband's Ultimate Betrayal", which detail a life of six years lived with a sociopath, Mary discovered her ‘husband’ to be a bigamist, con man and pedophile. Rather than be destroyed by the experience, she has let it make her stronger and wiser, with the ability to help others overcome similar emotional and psychological abuse.
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    We are working to expose cyberpaths & Internet predators who prey on other adults via dating sites, chat rooms, instant messaging for sex, money or just mental & emotional kicks. We want to help make the 'net safer for all!

  • ReportIllegals.com

    Marriages are difficult enough, but when immigration status is an incentive, problems do occur. This site has been shocked to find so many cases of Green Card Heartache which is when a marriage that was for obtaining immigration status ends. Victims of Green Card Heartache suffer severe emotional, financial and legal problems as the result of a spouse marrying for immigration status. About 33% of marriages between illegal aliens and citizens are blatantly sham marriages where money is exchanged, the couple does not even live together and may not have even met each other. Of course the politically correct media would never expose such a problem.

  • Truth About Deception
    Information about Lying, Cheating and Deception between a Husband and Wife, Boyfriend and Girlfriend
  • Parenting the At Risk Child
    Your source of information and resources for parenting a child at risk for ADHD, addiction, and antisocial behavior. Your child may be at risk if someone in your family has any of these disorders. This website authored by a psychiatrist, Liane J. Leedom who in December 2001, after a short courtship, unknowingly married a con artist. Liane realized that her son's father was likely a psychopath. Liane knew from lectures she had attended that this disorder has a strong genetic basis. At this site, you can find some answers for if you are a parent looking to care for at risk children in the best possible way.
  • The World's full of Con Men and Women
    Blog authored by Donna Layne Roberts, victim of the notorious con man bigamist, William Michael Barber.
  • A Perfect Target
    Blog authored by woman who journals the similarities between the behavior and personality traits indicative of a sociopath, in her opinion, and what she experienced with her former spouse.

  • ChatCheaters.com - A site about infidelity
  • Emotional Abuse and Your Faith
    Collection of Articles this blogger has found on Emotional and Verbal Abuse. She searches for ones that are geared towards the faith-based prospective. It is not just towards one but many faiths.
  • Holly's Fight for Justice
    Provides information relating to crime victims, which comes from personal experience with Canada's Justice System, reforms, and includes resources of information for crime victims in Canada, United States also other countries. Holly's story of surviving rape and advocating for crime victims around the globe.
  • You Are A Target; Not A Victim
    We hope the resources and experience of the women and men who contribute to YouAreATarget.com can help break the verbal and emotional abuse cycle in your life. We have a number of helpful sections.

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May 09, 2007

Very Bad Men, the Ed Hicks Story, Airs on WEtv Friday, May 18

Vbm_title Predators. Swindlers. Bigamists Masters of Fraud. The men who prey on friends and complete strangers alike. Very Bad Men is a seven-part, true crime series that exposes some of the most notorious cons on record. 

Very Bad Men, first shown in Canada on Global TV and filmed by Make Believe Media is now showing on cable's WEtv each Friday evening, with repeats early Saturday morning.

EdhickschesapeakeMeet the men who took what they wanted at any cost. The Don Juan of Con--bigamist William Michael Barber, The Sweetheart Swindler, The Man Who Married Too Much--bigamist Ed Hicks, The Messiah of Death, The Sweetheart Swindler, etc.
               
These men and their crimes fall across the spectrum - fraud, bigamy, larceny, crimes of passion, and murder.

Their methods, the tricks of their trade and the horrendous impact on their victims' lives - it's detailed in every episode - leaving little doubt that these are definitely some Very Bad Men.

The story of serial bigamist Ed Hicks airs Friday, May 18 at 10 PM. As many of you know, I was married to serial bigamist Ed Hicks, and as a result of my personal experience with bigamy, I began this blog in September 2005. Working together with the wife before me, Julie, we ensured that Ed Hicks was slapped with the toughest sentence ever handed a serial bigamist in the state of Virginia.

Read an overview of the episodes on WEtv's website. Read more in John Hopkins' Virginian-Pilot article.

November 20, 2005

I Am Married To A Bigamist

What Should I Do?

Bigamist2Too often, bigamy is a crime that goes unreported because its victims are embarrassed to go to the authorities. Victims are ashamed they have married someone who has not obtained an annulment or divorce from their previous spouse. Bigamy is socially unacceptable and it is not tolerated by our society. Bigamy is a crime.

But, why should you be ashamed? What have you done? You've done nothing, except love someone who has lied to you; you've done nothing except loved someone who has frauded you; you trusted your spouse to be honest with you. Speak up, go to the police, and don't back down.

I know I am married to a bigamist, what should I do?
If you know you are married to a bigamist, go to the police immediately. Also retain an attorney quickly to represent you in your annulment. If you have proof you are married to a bigamist, take both marriage licenses with you to the police, this will help speed the complaint process.

What if I am not sure my spouse is a bigamist?
If you are not sure, contact the previous spouse. Chances are he or she will be willing to help you.
If the previous spouse is not willing to cooperate, try to secure the marriage license and look for the divorce decree or ask the police to contact the previous spouse.

Marriage licenses and divorce decrees are difficult to obtain because every state has different regulations and there is NO centralized database in the United States of marriage records.

Lovefraud.com has an excellent section on Mission Impossible: Finding Out If Someone Is Married that will help aid in your search.

I have filed a complaint but Law enforcement officials are dragging their feet. Should I give up?
Never give up; but welcome to the world of being married to a bigamist and dealing with law enforcement officials. Even though bigamy is a crime, it is not on the priority crime list of police. And in many jurisdictions, it is not even on the radar.

Frankly, bigamists are not the biggest fish to fry when thrust into the company of murderers, rapists, and gang-related violence. Nonetheless bigamy is a CRIME, and bigamy is a felony in all but thirteen states. Until victims start pushing and making law enforcement officials and prosecutors accountable for prosecuting this crime, it will remain unimportant and unrecognized.

Become relentless; become a bulldog. Make daily phone calls to the detective handling your case. If you are not satisfied, talk to his or her superior, and talk to the prosecutor handling your case. If you feel you are getting the runaround or your calls are not being returned, or your emails are deleted without being read, go to your elected county or city representative. You are a taxpayer and your hard-earned tax dollars help pay the salaries of the law enforcement officials. Do not give up.

Bigamy is an overlooked and unreported crime in the United States and UK. Bigamists wreak havoc in their victims' lives, not just emotionally but financially as well.

If you become relentless in your pursuit, you can make a difference. Read about a one brave woman's pursuit to ensure her bigamist spent two years in jail.

Bigamy Laws
Bigamy is a felony in most states. Bigamy statutes for each state and the District of Columbia are divided alphabetically into the following categories on Fighting Bigamy:

Please note there is no centralized database for jurisdictions to check to see whether or not a person is being truthful on their application. The sentences and fines for bigamy are less than for a DUI. If a National Marriage Database were in place, this would not be a problem. I urge you to sign the petition urging Congress to institute such a database.

October 02, 2005

From One Extreme to The Other-Former Bigamy Punishment in Indiana to Punishment in Virginia Today!

State documents show Indiana once put people to death for bigamy, but the penalty was reduced to 100 to 300 lashes.

--From the Indianapolis Star, Capital Punishment in Indiana; 27 July 2005

Bringing bigamy charges is rare in Virginia. A computer search of 20 years of Times-Dispatch archives found the paper reported on 18 cases statewide in which people were accused, indicted or convicted on bigamy charges. Fifteen were men and three were women. Most punishments involved jail terms of less than a year.

--From the Richmond Times Dispatch, Ed Hicks the Marrying Man Left Loose Ends; He was Indicted on Bigamy Charge in Fairfax, Chesapeake Investigates; 2 October 2005.

September 30, 2005

Bigamy, A Historical Perspective: Today's Criminal Justice System Should Take Note

In the early 1900s, the criminal justice system had little sympathy for alleged bigamists. The system treated bigamists with harshness. The case of Francis Fritz provides a good example. Francis lived with his first wife for twenty-three years, with whom he had six children. He then deserted her and remarried.

When charged with bigamy, he claimed, unsuccessfully, that since "no legal ceremony had tied him to the first wife, he did not see what could prevent him from contracting a legal marriage. After the jury convicted him, however, Judge Newburger remarked that it was only the third time in his judicial career when he felt regret at not having the power to inflict a more severe punishment than the law prescribed: "'You are about the most contemptible specimen I have ever had to sentence,' he remarked to the prisoner, and the man cowered under the words as if in fear of a blow." The Judge then sentenced Fritz to five years in state prison.

Female bigamists seemed to be treated with equal harshness by the judicial system. For example, Florence Ferrest was arrested for bigamy after admitting to having several husbands in New York City and elsewhere. According to the reporter, she was "not very chastened in spirit when seen at the jail today.

The New York Times noted that Mrs. Florence wept after saying the following: "Just think . . . here I am under $1,000 bail for doing nothing more than trying to establish a home for myself. I told Ferrest I was divorced from Chabbenou, and thought the other marriages not important enough to count. And to think I shall have to stay in jail just for trying to make myself happy."

Eventually, Florence was charged with having four living husbands. The jury convicted her on all four counts of bigamy. In sentencing her, Judge Scott commented: "You seem to be a professional husband gatherer, and have a peculiar idea of the marriage vow." He then sentenced her to hard labor in the state prison for four years, "one year for each husband."

In the early 1900s, the public perceived bigamy as a moral crime against not just the spouse of the accused, but against society itself. In the eyes of the public, bigamists undermined social structure by breaking the sacred vow of marriage that tied the family and the greater community together. Judges and juries were outraged by instances of bigamy, at times reacting as though it was their spouse that had been unfaithful to them.

Yellow Justice: Media Portrayal of Criminal Trials in the Progressive Era, Shannon Petersen

Bigamy In Civil Jurisprudence

The statute books of various states of the Union contain laws modelled upon, and with provisions more or less similar to, those of the English law of 1604, and defining bigamy, or in the statutes of some States, polygamy, as a crime. Formerly by the Virginia law (United States reports, XCVIII, 165) and by the law of North Carolina (Kent, Commentaries, Part IV, 79 note d), bigamy was punished by death. Now its punishment in Virginia is imprisonment of not more than ten nor less than two years (Code § 3781), and in the North Carolina of not more than ten years nor less than four months (Revisal, § 3361).

In the State of New York the punishment is not more than five years' imprisonment, and the period of absence excusing second marriage is fixed at five years, the former husband or wife having been absent from the one remarrying "without being known by him or her within that time to be living and believed by him or her to be dead" (Birdseye, Revised Statutes, 306).

Divorce (unless for fault of the party remarrying), due permission of court, or annulment of the previous marriage, or sentence to life imprisonment of the former husband or wife also excuses the remarriage. Absence, therefore, not dissolving a previous marriage, on proof that a husband or wife who had been supposed to be dead is in fact living, the second marriage may be adjudged to be a nullity. The law will not sanction bigamy by recognizing the two marriages to be simultaneously valid.

According to the law of New York, the earlier marriage ceases to be binding until one of the three parties to the two marriages procures a judgment pronouncing the second marriage void (New York Court of Appeals Reports, CXIV, 120; Birdseye, op. cit., 1042; cf. Bishop, New Commentaries).

From The Catholic Encyclopedia