This was sent from Ed Hicks to confirmed wife #7,
Sandra - the day she found his online ad and kicked him out of HER house. The bigamy was yet to be found.
Ed is indignant in proclaiming
his innocence, just as with the horrible letter he left wife #6, Julie (see
below). What is notable about this letter is how typical of psychopathic behavior it is! Note the:
- Projection
- Blame-Shifting
- Denial
- The Twisting of Reality
- The Guilt-Tripping
- The ME-ME-ME stuff
- Confabulation/ Word Salad
- Seeming honorable when Ed Hicks was any thing but honorable or moral
-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Ed APD [mailto:Ed.Hicks@hqda.army.mil] (See you are hard at work, Ed)
Sent: Wednesday, April 13, 2005 8:49 AM
To: "Sandra"
Subject: It is amazing - just to confirm what you have been doing.
I am not into the insane stuff that
goes on in your
mind (PROJECTION).
If you think I have been searching for someone you should know I have not. (LIE) I put those ads out
there just to see if you are still spying. (LIE) The type of ad I put in was not designed
to disguise myself but to check to see if you are still spying. You have a problem with trying to
control people. I don't have a problem like that. (LIE) You really only have
the fact that I placed the ads just to see how much spying you do on me. You
have what you think is total control and in reality you continue
to make a mess of our life (PROJECTION). Now you think you can disparage me. It seems that is
what you were looking for. I felt and thought you were looking for things to do
just that. (LIE)
Home is where the tracing is. A guy from work and I placed a couple of ads and
you missed those (Nice to see that you are putting online ads from work, using Federal Government, Department of Defense, Army resources to put online ads from work, Ed Hicks). No way to trace it from there. I always wondered why. I was
home all the time. No chance of me (nor did I ever want anything or anyone
else) You were for a long time bound and determined to dig, be nasty and make
life unbearable so I would leave. (SHE KICKED YOU OUT AFTER SHE FOUND A YOUR PERSONAL AD
ADVERTISING FOR A WOMAN TO RETIRE TO PROPERTY THAT YOU AND YOUR WIFE SANDRA
BOUGHT; PROPERTY THAT SANDRA HAD DREAMS OF RETIRING TO WITH YOU, ED HICKS, YOU DIDN'T LEAVE!) Give you great grounds to again be
right and to make others believe I am something I am not. Your proof and
ammunition has holes in it. (LIE)
If you would have just allowed me to just love you and not want to
maneuver and control me we could have avoided all of this. (Blame Shifting) It seems
you are the one with the hidden agenda. Your emails and actions speak to that.
Even now I am not angry. (Laugh,
Laugh, Laugh) I have never treated anyone with disrespect and
it is not the time to start now. (LIE) You think you have what you want. I surely
would not plan to do me in with an ad in a dating service. It was a plant just
like all the others. I never answered any of them or even went back to the site
once the ads were placed. (LIE) I was not looking for anyone, just wondering why my loving wife would still be
so insecure she felt like she should be tracing my every step. Especially since
I am home or with you all the time. When would I have time or even want someone
else.
When you talk about being used. You were not but I was. I loved you,
stuck with you through all you have been through for the past couple of years.
Made allowances for your actions. Did all I could for your parents through
sickness and the eventual. Never complained about giving up vacation and
personal time and money to spend as much time and ensure you spent the maximum
amount of time in Abingdon. Worked around your parents home and did what I
could for them and you. I was tired but never gave you any indication of that.
All of this for you (PROJECTION, BLAME SHIFTING, REWRITING HISTORY, LYING).
I guess while I was trying to do what I could for you in any way I could you
were looking at ways to discredit me. Why else would you do what you have been
doing. Money seems to drive you. (PROJECTION) Well, enjoy what you get. I
surely hope it satisfies since someone loving you and doing what they can for
you was not enough. Unfortunately, what goes around comes around. (Ed Hicks' headstone should say that!)
I will make plans to remove my things from your house. You know as well as I do
that getting one's things from a house requires more than one day. (Planning) I
will let you know when I need to get in to move certain things. (Still trying to call the shots, Ed Hicks?)
I would never take anything of yours (You took her dignity, her heart, her trust, her soul). Despite what you might tell your friends
and relatives, you know who I am and that I would never do anything but remove
my things. It would be best if you are not there when I start removing my
things. I will request times to do that in advance so there won't be a chance
of a nasty altercation. I will try and have everything out in a couple of
weeks. That is what I will shoot for since there are still quite a few of my
things remaining there.
I knew you were leading up to this when the thought of you getting a lot
of money came into the picture. You changed almost instantly and have been
unbelievably nasty ever since. (PROJECTION) That is why I started moving my
things out of your garage. I knew you were up to no good. (BLAME SHIFTING) Waiting
until you had financial security and than rid yourself of anyone who did not
agree with you and what you do 100%. You gave me a prelude to this day some
time ago, so not unexpected. All the time I was hoping I was wrong: I guess
not. this would come up and since that was your house (Even though I treated it
as OURS just as you had said for the longest time. (OURS turns out to be yours when it is
convenient for you. PROJECTION and basic VERBAL VOMIT) All the work I put in there
there, patio and other extensive projects. Fixing, painting, etc.) At $300
per/mo. for storage of my things which were in the garage and now adding
another $300 to store the remainder of things from your house is not a bargain
either. Okay, you get what you want but don't try to paint me for what I am
not. Things have a habit of backfiring when people do that.
One thing, at least folks who have met me get a sense of who I am. They may not
know me well but will have doubts when you tell them some of the things you
think you have uncovered. If you would like to tackle that, go ahead. (THE SMEAR CAMPAIGN OF THE ABUSER - typical
to throw THEIR mud at the victim)
I need to get some clothes out of your house today so I can continue working. I
have meetings and commitments all day today but will try to secure a place to
stay as quickly as possible. I will let you know when I start the moving process.
(Ed Hicks, you are such a
responsible guy…NOT)
Ed Hicks
Information Management Officer, Business Processes
Army Publishing Directorate
703-428-0565
Ed Hicks left this letter on the pillow for Wife #6.
No face to face, like a real man. And NO DIVORCE, and by the way, Ed Hicks was already
romancing wife to be #7, Sandra and had been for FIVE months.
What is notable and horrifying about this letter is
how typical of psychopathic behavior it is! Note the:
- Projection
- Blame-Shifting
- Denial
- The Twisting of Reality
- The Guilt-Tripping
- The ME-ME-ME stuff
- Confabulation/ Word Salad
- Seeming Honorable when Ed Hicks was Anything BUT!
Read on and please get your air sickness bag, a
bumpy ride is ahead:
Julie
This is a very distressful day for me. I have been considering this for months.
I don’t know what else to do. I am at wits end with no way out. I have tried to
be patient and not be critical and all that stuff. It is not working and I am
very depressed and have been for months (You didn't seem too depressed, Ed Hicks, you were dating Sandra, dating *Lynn*, and *Carol*).
Honey, we are not getting to where we need or should be in this relationship. (She run out of money, Ed Hicks? Guess you found
another sucker who made a little bit more didn't you?) I need evidently
more than you are willing or know how to give. I don’t want a slave as you so
amply put if some time ago. I need a woman that puts me first in her life. (While I treat her like #2)
To view this home as just that and take care of it. Yes, you are so much better
than you were when we first met (PUKE, PUKE, PUKE). You have changed a lot, as have the kids and
me as well. I thought somewhere you would recognize the need for you to be more
active in what goes on here. It has gotten worse instead of better. You have
dropped out here and seem to be very happy spending most of the time in the
room reading or doing crossword puzzles (Ed Hicks, you spent all your time on the computer writing other women, who wouldn't want to spend time away from that; it is not like you were there for Julie). Well, we all need more. It is hard for
me to believe this makes you happy. You will not talk to me about things that
concern you so I have not a clue. I am not a mind reader and have reached my
end with trying to get you to understand that married people talk about almost
everything. You are very closed mouthed about what goes on here. (CLOSED MOUTHED? Why Ed Hicks This is
Projection at its Pinnacle!) When we first got together I told
you that talking is the key to making a marriage successful or not. Well, we
are not there. You seem to like being in your own world and coming out when you
want to and that is not to often. (So did you, Ed Hicks, according to all the other wives and numerous
girlfriends!)
I have been paying bills that are months behind. If we had a problem how come
you did not come and tell me. We could have set up something to take care of
it. Instead I find out when I open all the bills. (The bills YOU INCURRED Ed? While this poor
woman was trying to keep her head, and your head, and your children's head above water? You never paid bills; you never pay bills; you still don't pay bills) Things like
this require serious conversation between two people. We have no communications
at all about anything. I have to even ask you how your folks are doing. Things
are not good and they are not going to get better unless we take some serious
action. (What action? - She couldn't find you until you bellied up on wife #7,
Sandra) You are seriously overweight and are continuing to put
more on. That cannot make you happy; I know I am not. I cannot sit here and watch
you kill yourself. (Just say
it Ed Hicks. You watch so much porn that women with a little meat on them turn
you off because you objectify women) You are headed in the same
direction as your Mother. I don’t mean that in a bad way but in a way that I
have voiced in the past about health concerns.
You are off work more than any person I know for various reasons. You never
feel good (Who would feel good being married to you Ed Hicks?); there is always something wrong with you. I am not saying those
illnesses are not real. I know they must be. What I am saying is that you are
causing most of it yourself. Being as overweight as you are cannot be helping
matters any. (Guilt tripping!
Probably depression from being married to a psychopath who will NEVER be happy,
who is romancing other women behind her back, going through her money and looks
at all women like they are a blow up doll with a pulse and a checkbook)
Something is really happening to you and that too goes without conversation. I am not sure where this non-verbal practice comes from but I cannot take it any
more. (What happened to her
is YOU! How DARE you Blame-Shift! What's up Ed Hicks?)
First let me tell you that I love you so much and it hurts terribly to be in
this position (Yes,
and Ed Hicks was telling soon to be Wife #7, Sandra, that he loved her
too at this same time, and he was also telling *Lynn* that he loved her. Hurts...Hurts? You have never been hurt in your life, Ed Hicks, but you sure can dish out the hurt). I have to take drastic measures in an effort to try and save our
marriage. It won’t be easy and I have given this months of thought and can see
no other way to proceed with trying to salvage love and the possibility of
getting us put on the right track and back together in the future for a life
long existence together. I do want that but not under present circumstances.
There are also issues with the kids. We went through you hollowing/ cursing and
getting extremely mad at them for things that kids normally do. We have been
and still are in a phase where you tell them you don’t care what I say you will
do what you want. (Did you
get this out of book Ed Hicks?) Or, telling them that you don’t care what I say they
must do what you say. You seem to take many opportunities to put real pressure
on them with comments that go against what I have taught in this house. There
should have never been anything like that come out of your mouth. Even if you
thought it, saying things like that in front of and to them has done nothing
but strain their relationship with you. Do you forget that I raised them and
when you came to us I was the only authority they had ever had. Why were they such
good kids? I think I can take credit for that. Even their Mother does not or to
my knowledge has never said things like that to them (Yep, Mommie Dearest is a GREAT GAL).
She has always supported me even at times when she did not necessarily agree
with me. She even says now that there were times when she thought I was wrong
in my approach to raising children but now she sees what I was trying to impart
to them. Even now she will call me and ask for advice in how to deal with them
or what I would do in a particular situation. You never once came to me in that
manner (Yep, with Ed Hicks you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't). I wish you had, it would have made things a lot better here. By the
time you and I talked it was you being angry because I did not see your point
of view. That is not to say you were wrong but that was not the right approach
for these kids.
When we moved here I left the house to you. Look at it; we still don’t have
curtains at the kid’s windows. The living room carpet was filthy until I got
some carpet shampoo and cleaned it myself. (Well it takes two Ed Hicks!) No, this is not asking
you to be a slave but a wife and a mother. I should not have to travel most of
the week and come home to wash clothes; clean floors worry about bills that
aren’t being paid (Ed Hicks quit paying any bills after he booted Julie from
their home. Before she left, Julie made sure all the bills were paid. And
because of Ed Hicks Julie’s credit is still ruined. Julie had to declare
bankruptcy; Julie lost her car.). It is too much for me to take. I
have a course to study for that as I told you would take an enormous amount of
time to get through (Which Ed Hicks never finished by the way, besides Ed Hicks needs time to keep up his girlfriends and online ads)
That was not something I wanted but what was dumped on me. Still I see no change
in action from you. All these things are fine if you want to deal with them and
it only affected you, but all of this affects the kids and me. They are
learning what not to do or how to act when they get married. #### is willing
to do more for me than you are. She knows that with what I have taught her
about life, marriage, duties and partnerships that this is not what it should
be (Oh yeah....right, Ed Hicks...very sad what YOU did to your own daughter, but we aren't going to go into that here; you know what you did and the outcome of that). That you should be doing more for me. As she said, they can take care of
themselves but it would be nice to know that you were taking care of me better (Oh Please...taking care of you, Ed Hicks, better. BARF).
My weekends are spent washing, ironing, yard work, gardening, and anything
other than what I should be doing. (Should or want to be doing? Screwing with the bodies and heads of
other women) This house was supposed to be yours and you have
done nothing with it. You said when we were in Monterey that you felt the house was not yours. Well, that
was true since you moved in with us and we had almost everything required.
Since we have been here, what is the reason for not feeling like the house is
yours. You opted out and so things stand still unless I do something. Not a way
a partnership should be. (Partnership?
You should know all about partnerships, Ed Hicks, since this is your confirmed
sixth marriage and the third one that overlaps)
Let me preface the remarks about washing, housework, etc. You know that I do
this continually anyway. So I don’t ever want you thinking that slave thing
again. That train of thought is totally missing the point. I know you will do
that so let’s not go there. I have always done chores inside the house. (You are really obsessed with that slave
thing Ed Hicks; did she hit a nerve there? Because that's what you wanted,
right; You had your girlfriends on the side: *Carol* the scheduler and *June*--the logistics
engineer, remember? How many others were there?)
I could go on and I am quite sure you have issues with me. Well,
that is a given. I am different and I know that (That's an understatement, Ed Hicks). The one thing that you can
take from this is that the kids and I love you very much but we need a break (Besides I have another couple of Patsy’s
on the hook: Sandra and *Lynn* the social worker and let's not forget *Carol*) and a change in you. If you get angry as you usually do and dig in
your heels, we stand no chance. My solution to the problem is this. (Here we go!)
1. Give your job here two weeks notice and tell them that you are going back to
Utah to assist with your parents. They know the situation
there. If they ask how long, just tell them it could be several months. Also,
it gives you time to ensure you have some money when you get there.
2. Go to Utah and help your sisters with your folks. See what it
is like to give of yourself 100% to something you want. (Not something you would know anything
about, Ed Hicks) Also, they could use a break. They are
handling both your parents in times that would be trying for anyone. While in Utah search your heart for answers to some of the
questions I have asked and that you know are inside you. Make some decisions on
how you act or react to situations. You and I can talk long distance and try to
work this out or if you like we cannot have any contact at all. You are the one
that has to figure out what you want in life and what you are willing to give
to get it.
3. Drive your car back there so you have your own transportation. I will drive
back there with you if you like. I don’t want to worry about how you are doing
out on the road alone. I can fly back. (He'll be LONG GONE by the time you get back; on to soon-to-be wife
#7; no conscience, no closure, no remorse!)
I love you Julie and this is not a way to get rid of you but the only way I
know to try and salvage our relationship and the love we have left. I do love
you so much and it hurts to see us like this (You know nothing about hurt, Ed Hicks. NOTHING). I would give the world to have
you see my point of view or to have us agree on a compromise that is right for
this family but to date it has not happened. You have ideas and thoughts that
do not fit into what I have built this house on. (lies, deception, predatory behaviors and
the gospel according to Ed) You know I would never tell or do
anything to hurt you. (What
do you call this note, Ed Hicks?) I have more experience with
life than you and I have been where you are now. I thought I could help you
with things in your life but you don’t want help. I can understand that.
Julie, I do want you back but with a different frame of mind. I know you love
me but it seems you love yourself and your way more (VERBAL VOMIT TO THE MAX). There is a conflict there.
(Yes and it has be all about
ME ME ME ME!)
I don’t know where I am going or what I will do this evening. (Ed Hicks was with soon-to-be Wife #7,
Sandra) I just want to ride or go or do something that takes my
mind off this situation. No, I am not out drinking. Please don’t get the kids
in the middle of this. Don't slam doors or act anything but like an adult. (Verbal Vomit)
THE KIDS DON'T KNOW ABOUT THIS AND IF WE DO IT I WANT THEM TO KNOW THAT YOU
ARE GOING TO UTAH TO HELP WITH THEIR GRANDPARENTS. (Oh God, don't let MY kids know I am bottom
feeding scum sucking, bigamist with the morals of an ant who just ripped off and deeply hurt their step-mother)
That is all I want them to know. So if you go OFF over this note you are going
to get them all upset. I have had enough of that. Don’t get mad and leave in a
huff as well. If you don’t want to wait or you have other ideas, please wait
until they are sleep and I am home to act. PLEASE THINK OF SOMEONE ELSE BESIDES
YOUSELF THIS TIME. (VERBAL
VOMIT) PLEASE. (Please, please, please. Interesting, that starts with P
just like PSYCHOPATH!!)
I love you Julie Hicks and I do want us to work this out if that is what you
want to do. (Just like I
loved those before, during, and after…and…Oh well you know. I am just Ed Hicks)
Love Always, You husband-
Ed (Now
let's open a can of whoop ass on him)
More Missives To Another Ed Hicks Target Written While Married To #7, Sandra; Still Married to #6 Julie
At the time of these writings, Wife #7, Sandra's, father was dying and she was spending 8-10 hours a day with him. Ed would come from time to time too. Ed went to see his Aunt on rare occasions, though he certainly talked it up. What a nice guy to write to his girlfriend while his wife's father lay dying.
-----Original Message-----
From: "Carol"
Sent: Saturday, January 17, 2004 4:46 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA (Busy at work again, Ed Hicks?)
Subject: How are you?
Ed
I'm not sure if you are angry with me or not? But I am praying that you are not and that you are doing fine. I'm also not sure if you are getting my emails or simply not returning a response. (TYPICAL PREDATOR..... creating "desire" by not answering emails, leaving her hanging.... Predators are either bombing your mailbox or leaving you wondering if their computer is working. MAJOR RED FLAG!) If so I can understand. Life sometimes puts us in awkward positions especially when our integrity in on the line. (Ed Hicks? Integrity? Sorry "Carol", he has no idea what that means!) However I have known you for a little while and pray that we can still be friends. What would really bother me if you would not want to be my friend.
Best Wishes
Love Always "Carol"
-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil] (Busy at work again, Ed Hicks?)
Sent: Monday, January 26, 2004 8:56 AM
To: "Carol"
Subject: RE: How are you?
Well, I am finally back but in the snow. It is very cold here and the roads are awful. I am headed to the Pentagon and than home. I spent Friday and Saturday in Emporia with my Aunt and cousins. (This Aunt of Ed Hicks' was used for MORE excuses - and HE RARELY WENT TO SEE HER!) I think this will be the last time we all spend any time together. She is not doing well and said she may as well die since Uncle Jessie is not here. It hurts me to hear that but at the same time I can relate to what she is saying. After being married to a person for 56 years it does not make for good days when you know they are gone. (Ed Hicks waxing poetic about MARRIAGE - ULK!)
I honestly think she will just lay down one day and not wake up. That is her wish. We were trying to make sense of what she wants to do with her things. House, etc. These folks have a difference in thinking than I have. One cousin thinks I want part of what she has. No matter how much I tell them I am just there to see my aunt gets things done after she is gone. If they keep messing with me I will just walk away and let them fight over stuff. I am not about that.
Anyway, I am not angry but been traveling. The Internet mail has been on and off for the past two months so I don't always get my mail when gone. (Bull!)
Honey, I am very tired and should get moving or I will fall asleep. We have about 8 inches of snow and they say we will get at least that again tonight so I don't want to be on the road.
I do love and miss you. You take care of you, okay. (Just like Ed Hicks takes care of ED HICKS only!)
Ed Hicks
Information Management Officer,
Business Processes
Standards & Technology Division, APD
703-428-0565
-----Original Message-----
From: "Carol"
Sent: Monday, January 26, 2004 12:06 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA
Subject: RE: How are you?
Ed
I'm really sorry to hear about your Aunt and family members. I tell you people will be people no matter what or how hard we try and convince them that their are caring people in the world.
I'll continue to pray you and your family. When you get a chance let me know how and what the kids are doing.
I enjoy the emails about their young life's.
DC really got some snow according to the weather report, as always I'm concerned about your family safety during bad weather. So Take care and get some rest.
CAROL IS OBVIOUSLY A BIG FAN OF ED HICKS' FICTION
Much love
"Carol"
-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil](Busy at work again, Ed Hicks?)
Sent: Monday, January 26, 2004 9:13 AM
To: "Carol"
Subject: RE: How are you?
Sweetie the kids are fine. Still going to school but not willing to put in what I think they should to get the most out of school. I guess I should be glad they are still going. :)
Yes, folks are a mess. If they only knew me they would rest easy knowing I don't want anything. When they would ask me and tell them I really don't want anything they think I am lying. Well, that is on them. I will help when the time comes or I can walk away. I have not been around most of them at all in my life and I don't need no aggravation now. (Ed Hicks certainly CAUSES ENOUGH AGGRAVATION, pain, depression and ruin!)
Hope things are going well with you. I am heading out of here now. Hopefully tomorrow will not bring more snow. If it does they will surely shut down the Federal Gov't here.
Take care. I miss you. Love. (And you and you and you oh, and YOU TOO!! - blech!)
Ed Hicks
Information Management Officer, Business Processes
Standards & Technology Division, APD
703-428-0565
Recent Comments